Sunday, December 4, 2016

A (weekend) day in the life

I don't think people really understand just how busy we are. Maybe my day doesn't sound busy, but it seemed fairly crazy to me. I won't even blog about yesterday.

Last night was P's Holiday work party. It was nice. I was up a bit later than usual - 11:00. I woke up around 5ish, then drifted back off until 6:40 when I heard the pitter patter of little feet. On weekends, I leave a phone or Ipad for Benny, then he takes it back to his room until at least 7:15 am. It allows me to get a bit more rest. V will wake up and stay in her room reading until we go get her. Most of the time.

Around 7:30 am I blundered downstairs, got the kids milk and cereal bars. I drank some water and dealt with V looking for Elf on the Shelf. P blundered downstairs, looking terrible. I found him some aleve and water. I made an Optifast smoothie and then sat on the couch while V and B fought and annoyed each other. After getting jumped on and the blanket pulled off me while I tried to read the news, I finally found my workout clothes and went down the basement around 9:00. Before that I gave V her ADHD medication and hoped it would settle her down.

B hung out with me and finally I set him up with Playdoh so I could finish some newer Jane Fonda for 40 min. I did the rowing machine for 10 minutes then called it a day. P was resting. I swtiched over the laundry and went upstairs to get dressed and take a quick shower.
By this time it was around 10:30. I wanted to run out to the store but we had to get ready for a birthday party at noon. I had some Diet Coke (didn't get to finish because V poured stuff in it) and gave the kids a snack of watered down juice and some baked Lays. Took the kids upstairs and helped them pick up clothes and get dressed. Picked up random crap and garbage for a few minutes.

11:40 am. We had thankfully already wrapped the gifts so we drove over. Spent some time at the party and kids were a bit whiny.

2:00 pm - Drove through McD's drive through and bought a Diet Coke for P and I.
2:20 pm - Ate some leftovers from last night. Delish! Assembled the Christmas Village from P's childhood on the mantle and kept asking V to help me. She was cutting up pieces of old ribbons to make belts. B spent some time in the bathroom. I switched over the laundry and put on the oven. I put some pre-made sugar cookies in to bake for V's party on Saturday. Made four dozen.
3:30 - left to take Benny to a playdate. It was a 12 minute drive. Was there until 6:00. Called my mom to check in on the drive home.
6:10 - home. hungry. P felt better and had supervised V's shower and piano practice, helped her with homework, did the dishes, played a boardgame with V.
I found something to eat. Benny ate at playdate, V ate while I was out. P didn't eat. Got the kids milk. Plugged in the Christmas lights. Emailed book club because I didn't read book and wouldn't make it tonight.
Set up V on IXL math program on my laptop. Benny kept bugging her and I and whining. P ended up taking him for a bath.
7:15 - decided to make some Oreo bark. V cried and whined the entire time about wanting some. I poured her medicine - Bactrim (urinary reflux). I emptied the laundry and took V upstairs while P was getting Benny to bed. V got ready for bed (with much prompting) and I put away laundry in her room while she read. P switched off with me and I went downstairs. Realized it was snowing so I found all the kids' snowpants and boots and gloves and labeled them in neat bags for school.

8:30 - cut up and put away the cooled Oreo bark. Realized that I am really really tired.
9:00 - sit down finally. Get a class of water. Wait for Westworld to start.

Is anyone else this busy?


Friday, November 11, 2016

Benny talks about my dad

My dad died 13 years ago and unfortunately will never meet my kids. I don't talk about him to the kids that much and I don't have a ton of pictures of his around. He and I were very close and I miss him every day. Benny was in bed with the lights off and I was snuggling him.

Benny: Is Grandpa Jerry a little bit dead?
Me: ? yes, he died.
Benny: Is he a little bit dead?
Me: yes.
Benny: He got sick. He needed a Band Aid.
Me: ?
Benny: He's better now. He likes to walk in the sand.

Okay. What was going on in his little head? What prompted him to talk about this? Are these small children more open to seeing/experiencing things than we are?

Wednesday, September 21, 2016

1st day of School

The first day of school has come and gone and I am just now posting. We start late here in Michigan since a state law was passed mandating a post-Labor Day start (helps with tourism $$$). V started 2nd grade and Benny started pre-K both at the same place as last year. (pretty much daycare, but with a preschool teacher and more formal learning). V was prescribed glasses in July, just for school work. So far, V really likes school, and Benny has been really tired, both going to bed an hour early. V is still going to before and after school care, which she really likes. Benny really wants to go to V’s school and after school care. I think we are going to try him at her camp in the summer. But he has to become more comfortable in the water and changing clothes before that time. Both are required. Here’s to a good school year!

Sunday, August 21, 2016


"Mama, I don't like surf boarding (he was watching wakeboards).  I'm small".

"Mama,  zero isn't a number"

"The gorilla doesn't eat people".  

"Mama,  dogs can't use the potty.  They don't have penises".

"Mama,  you're my best friend".   
Me -  later that week-  " who is your best friend?"  
Benny -"Paz and Paloma" (twins at daycare).  Thanks buddy.

"Mama,  you're a rock star".

"Mama,  you're sooo beautiful".

Tuesday, August 16, 2016

Mom to the rescue

Benny usually doesn't have any issues with bathrooms. He is good about telling you when he needs to go or just doing it. He likes to have a lot of time to peruse the IPad for certain bathroom times, which I indulge. V had some issues with leaking and wetting which I haven't talked about. I took her to the MD and they said it was "behavioral". WHATEVER. Well, two months after that she became very ill. She was having high fevers and lethargy. I took her back to the MD and insisted that they test her urine, and they found out she had a UTI, which later grew out E.coli on culture. I had demanded a referral to Urology prior to this because I KNEW they were wrong. No seven year old starts wetting the bed and leaking all day long out of the blue. At Urology, they ordered an ultrasound and cystography which thankfully Paul took her too. It was pretty rough. It did show that MAMA was correct, she had urinary reflux and a bladder wall deformity of some sort. That with her encopresis can be a challenge. She is now on prophylactic Bactrim daily to prevent any infections. We have to go back to Urology and I know they are going to want another test and I just don't know if we can get V to go along. Last time she had the luxury of not knowing what was going to happen. It's tough she has another problem to manage, a problem that can have some social stigma to it. But right now she doesn't need surgery, and we are watching it closely.

So we were at counseling for Victoria (her ADHD). Benny and I hang in the waiting room and he is allowed some Ipad time. He was so worried about someone taking away his precious Ipad, that he didn't mention he had to potty and proceeded to have an accident on the waiting room floor. I cleaned it up with paper towels. (It was carpet ). We walked to the car to try and find extra clothes or a swimsuit. There were none. So I took the trash liner out of the garbage, put his clothes in, and tied my sweater around like a skirt. He didn't mind at all. Motherhood - makeshift clothing achievement = unlocked.

Tuesday, July 19, 2016

Peanuts Birthday

As I've posted before, Benny is obsessed with Peanuts. In the car today, he exclaimed, "Good grief mama!". Peanuts was briefly popular when the Peanuts movie came out about a year ago, and now everything has disappeared from stores. I decided to actually plan ahead (something that is not my strength) and make his birthday as Peanut-y themed as I could. We decided to have his birthday at a local gymnastics place that he has been into for a while. Trampolines, jumping, blocks, tumble track, balance beams for 45 min, then 45 min in the lobby. It was fairly economical and we brought all the food, which I like, instead of forcing people to eat gross cold cheap pizza supplied by the venue.

I ordered him a shirt off Etsy, they did a great job! His sister got a shirt from Kohl's and I did too so we were representing Peanuts. I couldn't find one for Daddy.

I got his cake from Kroger. Not the cheapest or best place, but driving 40 min round trip to Costco, or 20 min to Sam's made it worth it. Kroger was willing to put a yellow background with a black stripe. I bought the figurines at Target and put some on the cake. Note: Black icing is mess!

Some people are not big believers in gift bags. I understand that, although I love gift bags. I try not to put junk in them, just some little snacks. The little canvas bags are Oriental Trading, on clearance from Valentine's Day. They were the perfect size to put a few little things in. The little balls, puffy stickers, and necklaces were ordered from there too. Kroger had Snoopy fruit snacks - 5 for $1.

So it was a fun day, and Benny had a LOT of fun, which makes it nice.

Monday, June 27, 2016

Summer Plans

V is going back to the Rec Center camp this summer. I wanted her to do the school camp, since it is at the elementary school right down the road from her elementary school (the west side of our town has a lot of population growth) and I like the teachers and she knows a lot of the kids. However, she wanted to go back to the Rec Center, which is out of our way, but not crazily so. My only complaints are that she is in the pool four days a week (her hair gets fried from the chlorine), she gets crazy tired, they are forgetful about her medicine, and it has a huge parking lot, where I have to park and walk through the facility with a preschooler which adds a lot of time onto our day. They do go on fun field trips every Thursday. It is also $20 cheaper a week than the school camp.

The 2nd week of August she is going to day camp with her friend at Greenfield Village. What a great opportunity! I am carpooling, so will have to drive over there after work (probably an hour) and do pickup. The last week of August we are driving across the country!

I kept Benny at daycare for the summer. I considered putting him in some sort of active day camp, but ended up keeping him there for the following reasons: He will be there in the fall for Pre-K, his friends are there, he still needs a nap, it is 0.6 miles from my house. Next year he can attend V's camp, but it is pretty fast paced and he will just be entering Kindergarten.

We'd like to do some weekend trips this summer, but it seems like it is jam-packed full.