Tuesday, March 10, 2009

A Little Down

I have to admit, I'm a little down today.

Vi has had a 'daycare cough' for around a month. I bought a cool mist humidifier and that really helped. Last night she coughed like crazy and this morning at 4:30 coughed so horribly I knew she couldn't go to daycare today. So I emailed and called work and we went back to bed until almost 8 (thank goodness!). P is in Boston all week so I'm on my own. P usually works until 8 or 9, but I have to admit, I'm pretty lonely. Vi is still coughing up a storm and I don't know if I'll bring her tomorrow, although I hate to take two days off work when she seems otherwise fine.

The bad news is that the doctor felt there were was delay in Vi's motor skills, especially her torso muscles and of course her not sitting up. She's seen a tiny bit of improvement but thinks she is 1.5 - 2 months behind in gross motor skills. Her fine motor skills appear fine. I don't think she is retarded or anything like that. She was referred for early intervention for physicial therapy, which in Michigan is provided by the school district.

I'm devastated to say the least. No one wants anything to be wrong with their child. I know it's relately minor, that my child doesn't have a fatal disease or anything, but you wonder what you did or didn't do or what caused this, etc. I knew it in my heart, but just couldn't accept it until now.

Please pray for us.


Julie said...

Hi Jen. I'm really sorry you're feeling down. It's certainly understandable. No mom wants to hear their baby is struggling. I wanted to tell you though that these milestones are just guidelines and it's not uncommon for babies to miss some and struggle with others and it doesn't mean there will be long term issues. In fact, one of my dear friends has a 3.5 year old son who didn't roll over until he was 9 months old. He's perfectly normal and healthy.

I would definitely take Vi in to have her lungs checked out...it's RSV season and the cough could be an indication of that or mild pneumonia, or the start of croup. Hopefully none of the above but I know you'd rather rule it out than wait and risk it getting worse.

Hugs to you and Vi. I hope your spirits are lifted really soon. You're in my thoughts and prayers. Hang in there. Hugs to you too!

Amie said...

Hi Jen -

I think you are making too much of this. She's do this stuff when she is good and ready!

Chris said...

My son didn't sit up until 8 months and we just called that normal. Don't worry, it will be okay....